⏱️ A productive waste of time
💡 2 THOUGHTS FROM ME
I. The more proactive you are with your time, the better off you’ll be.
It’s hard to say no to requests you know you should decline because you want to be nice, so you say yes. It’s hard to stop scrolling on your phone when it’s easier and more enjoyable than the focused work you need to do. It’s hard to do what you should be doing in the moment if you haven’t already decided what that is.
But this is how time evaporates and our lives become fragmented. It’s usually not in big chunks, but in countless small concessions here and there.
The simplest solution is to decide ahead of time how you will spend your time. When you do, it becomes much easier to say “no” to unnecessary requests or distractions, because you already know what you’ve planned to do with that time.
Be careful where your time and attention go.
Because what you trade your attention for is what your life becomes.
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II. You can be very productive while wasting a ton of time - if you’re working on an unimportant task.
💬 2 HELPFUL QUOTES
I. Charles Duhigg on who you want to be:
"Habits are not destiny. They can be ignored, changed, or replaced. But it starts with awareness. The difference between who you are and who you want to be is often found in the loop you’re repeating every day."
II. Charles Kingsley on how to be happy:
“We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us happy is something to be enthusiastic about.”
📖 1 BRIEF BOOK REVIEW
A book about the importance, advantages, and happiness marriage provides.
This is an excellent book full of real data, not anecdotal stories, about marriage, family, kids, and why the happiest people, on average (by a wide margin), are those in committed marriages with children.
You’ve been lied to by the media and cultural elites. The author, using real data, shows how a good marriage makes you happier, increases wealth, extends your life, leaves you much more sexually satisfied, and gives you greater meaning in life.
He also defines what constitutes a good marriage and outlines steps to achieve one. I appreciate how he engages with and rebuts articles, books, and resources that argue against marriage, dismantling the apparent (though untrue) beliefs that it will hold you back or weigh you down.
He also highlights how many of the most successful, wealthy, and powerful people today say one thing about marriage, kids, and sex, yet practice the exact opposite in their personal lives.
The moral of the story is that marriage is a very good thing for you and well worth pursuing if you’re able. You’ll be happier and better for it.
9/10
