⏱️ Better to quit than 50% commit
💡 2 THOUGHTS FROM ME
I. You should either commit fully to something or let it go completely. Contrary to what many people think, a 50% commitment is the worst option. Here’s what many people do:
Some people go to church once or twice a month and never serve or engage with their church community. They trick themselves into thinking their faith is a priority, but never take the necessary steps for it to truly impact their life. Because they go occasionally, it feels like it matters.
In reality, weak commitment doesn’t bring more results or transformation than no commitment at all. But non-commitment (never going) at least forces you to admit you aren’t actually committed, prompting either change or honesty about your priorities.
The same is true with fitness. Going to the gym once every other week can trick you into thinking you prioritize your health. After all, you have a membership and you do go, just inconsistently. But exercising once every two weeks doesn’t make you any healthier than not exercising at all.
It would be better to admit you’re not prioritizing your health than to carry on with a weak commitment. Because once you’re honest about it, you can decide if it’s as important as you say it is.
In any area of life where your commitment is weak, it’s better to let it go completely. That way, you can’t trick yourself into thinking you're making progress when you really aren’t.
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II. One simple trick to ensure you invest in your most important relationships and career growth: schedule them on the first day of every month. For example:
Date night(s) with your spouse
One-on-one time with your kids
Strategic planning for work
Extended time for prayer or spiritual development
Instead of squeezing in the most important things when you “have the time” (which inevitably means pushing them back when the urgent displaces the important), schedule them first, when your calendar is still open, and everything else will fall into place.
Set a recurring reminder for the first of every month with a list of the important things you need to schedule. When the important is prioritized, the urgent won’t quietly erode what matters most.
💬 2 HELPFUL QUOTES
I. Charles Bukowski on forging your own reality:
“I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen but as the years wasted on nothing ever did unless I caused it.”
II. Charlie Munger on the importance of following your interests:
“In my whole life I’ve never been good at something I wasn’t very interested in. It just doesn’t work. There’s no substitute for strong interest.”
📖 1 BRIEF BOOK REVIEW
Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara
This book was a decent read, but it wasn’t quite what I expected based on the title.
I assumed it would be about how to create hospitable environments, both personally and for organizations—offering tips, advice, examples, and stories of what that looks like in practice.
To me, the book read almost like a memoir with hospitality principles sprinkled in. The author has had an accomplished career in the hospitality/restaurant industry, and much of the book tells the story of his career and how hospitality has played a vital role.
It’s not a bad read by any means, but I walked away feeling like I read more of a life story, without as many memorable or actionable takeaways.
If you’re in the hospitality industry, I think you would enjoy the book. But for me, it didn’t quite live up to its title.
The author does talk a lot about "unreasonable hospitality," but my inference from the title was that it would be more practical than it was.
6.5/10
