⏱️ Stop trying to find yourself

I. Trying to “find yourself” is an undefinable goal and an unhelpful pursuit.

How do you know when you have done it? What happens when you change (as everyone does)? What if you don’t like what you find?

Instead of trying to “find yourself,” decide who you want to become and create small rhythms and habits to help you slowly become that person.

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II. You are more than what you do, but you are not less. What you do shapes who you are. Do the right things and you become the right type of person. Do the wrong things and what you do turns you into someone you don’t want to be.

What you do shapes your character, your health, and your reputation. It can open doors for you or close them. It is not all there is to you, but it molds you.

So while you are more than what you do, you are not less.

Luke Simmons on our need for a better mediator:

“Everyone knows it's dumb to represent yourself in a court case. In the same way, it's a bad idea to represent yourself before a Holy God. Much better to entrust yourself to Jesus. He's a better mediator, and he already served your sentence.”

Selfie by Will Storr

A book about how our culture has become one of self-obsession. This book was a strange read. It was too long, yet some of the stories the author included were interesting. At times it was kind of weird. The book wasn't what I thought it would be. And I almost gave up on it.

But then it was also quite interesting at times. I would say the second half of the book was better than the first.

I would also say the author would be helped by reading Christian theology book and even a church history book. When he spoke about the influence of Christianity (Catholicism from his personal experiences), there were many times I wanted to correct him.

The strength of the book was its focus on the last 60ish years of human psychology and the rise of focusing on self-esteem and how it brought us many of the issues we have today.

If you are interested in psychology and human behavior, you might find interest in this book. If not, I don't think you would enjoy it enough to see it through.

6/10

P.S. I will stop at something.